Notes: Views expressed are my own. In this post, I’m referring to independent companions who don’t work for agencies or massage parlours where the reservation process is likely handled by a booker. For simplicity, I use she/her for the companion, and he/him for the client.
So, you’ve decided that you’d like to enjoy the company of an escort. You sifted through dozens of online profiles and found a few that tickled your fancy. Between that spark of excitement and the moment she knocks on your hotel room door, or you show up at her incall, many things can go sideways and lead to wasted time. I’ve seen it and heard enough about it that I thought I’d write this article. Here are 6 super straightforward tips to book the companion of your dreams without giving yourself a headache!
1 Remember that she doesn’t know you
In all aspects of your interactions with an escort, especially when making arrangements for the first meet, it’s wise to keep in mind that you are a stranger to her. While you may know you’re a trustworthy standup man, she doesn’t know it, yet. Sadly, you’re surrounded by a sea of time wasters and ill-mannered men, so she will not blindly put her privacy, safety, and financial security at risk. Just accept that and don’t take it personally. In practice, this can mean:
Don’t ask for her personal name before you’ve even met her, even for hotel or flight reservations. It’s a good idea not to ask ever.
It’s ok to ask for the general location of her incall and when you should expect the address, but don’t ask for full incall address details days before you meet her.
Don’t show up at her incall early. Usually, she will email or text you when she’s ready or she’ll expect you to buzz right at the time of the appointment. When in doubt, ask her in advance what her procedure is.
Don’t interact with neighbours or the concierge of her building to ask for help. Email/text/call her instead.
Have her donation ready in cash and in an envelope for the start of your meeting. Don’t promise an e-transfer because you didn’t have time to get cash if cash is her preferred method of payment. Transfers can take 30 mins to clear and you will need to wait and lose that time from your appointment.
2 Hire a reputable escort
The reverse of the previous paragraph is obviously that you don’t know her. To put your mind at ease, look for signs that she’s a reputable independent companion. Here are a few to consider:
Does she have a website with multiple photos?
Are her rates average or above average for the city she’s in? Extremely low rates can indicate a scam, but not always.
Does she have a social presence on Twitter/X, Bluesky, or Instagram where she posts photos and selfies regularly? Are there interactions from other companions on her posts? Does she interact with others?
Does she advertise on an escort ad platform that verifies the real identity of companions they list? For example, Tryst and Bloom.
3 Read her ad and website thoroughly
Before reaching out, make sure you read all the details of the companion’s profile. This will help you in several ways:
Is the escort in the right city for you? Or are you prepared to fly her to you (make sure she offers that service)?
Does she offer specific services you’re looking for? Common requests include full service, bbbj, greek, role play.
Does she appear to be the type of person you’d enjoy spending time with?
Do her rates fit within your budget?
Do you understand her booking process? Deposit, screening, preferred contact method, etc.
Do you understand her cancellation policy?
Sending her a message without reading the information she’s already made public then expecting her to rewrite it in an email or text shows disrespect for her time and places you in a less-than-ideal light from the start.
4 Assume she has options
Many independent companions receive appointment requests daily, with dozens not being uncommon. Many also have other sources of income that require time and energy. Don’t assume that because she charges more, or less, or is plumper, or darker, or shorter, or taller, or more mature that she isn’t busy and will jump over backwards when she gets your message. Plus, speaking for myself here, many companions are selective and will only see gentlemen they feel are a good fit for them. Be respectful and thoughtful always.
5 Put effort into your initial outreach
This is so obvious to me but for some reason it isn’t for some clients. Recall what I just said above? I guarantee you that if your initial contact is “Hey”, “You free”, the majority of companions won’t even respond. (Side note: Every message I receive gets a response but the energy I return reflects what’s sent.) Show her your best side. Tell her a little bit about you (name, age range, where you’re from, profession), what you liked about her profile, when you’d like to see her, and what you envision as a date. This shows you’ve read her profile and are serious about meeting her. No companion wants to be treated like a number. Show her you think of her as an individual you want to experience a slice of life with.
6 Dress for success
You’re going on a date. Dress and look your best! Be freshly groomed and smell amazing. This shows self-respect and respect for your companion. And while you’re at it, why not have a beverage ready for her in your hotel room? Or bring a little something to her incall?
If you’ve read this far, you probably understand the common thread that joins all of these 6 points: respect. From small unexpected gestures of kindness to following her documented procedures, it’s simply all about being treated the way you expect to be treated.
Now, go enjoy your date!
xx
Written by Max Chabanel
Photo by Chris F
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